Cheryl Toland, Surviving Spouse Laision
I have found these 2 website very helpful not as the surviving spouse but for any one that is in need of support as the caregiver of our veterans. 
As MOAA is successfully lobbying to expand and improve VA caregiver benefits and programs, the creation of the Program of Comprehensive Assistance for Family Caregivers (PCAFC) was formed & the VA expanded last month to include veterans of all eras.
https://www.moaa.org/content/publications-and-media/news-articles/2022-news-articles/advocacy/improvements-to-va-caregiver-program-continue-heres-what-to-expect/

The Elizabeth Dole Foundation has created a new program, Respite Relief for Military and Veteran Caregivers, which offers family caregivers of veterans or service members access to free, short-term relief with the help of in-home care professionals.
https://hiddenheroes.org/find-help/respite/